Where Love Abides


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This allegory is about Sorrow, who works her way through life looking for love in all the wrong places, until she finally fnds what she is looking for. In the process, Sorrow becomes Beloved in a joyous transformation. If you have struggled with life and want to be inspired you will love this book. It is easy to read and has an exciting ending. People who read it have told the author they read it again and buy copies for their friends. This book was a labor of love for Susan. Of course it is autobiographical. Enjoy!

From the Author

My first book, Addiction to Love, was a clinical analysis of love addiction. It looked at this painful disorder in all its many forms. It described the various symptoms of codependency, and it offered a step-by-step program of recovery. After the book came out, many people asked me to tell my own personal story about recovery from love addiction. I tried, but draft after draft went into the waste basket -- too narcissistic, too clinical, too superficial.

Finally, I came up with Where Love Abides--an allegory or parable which is a combination of excerpts from my journal--stories I have written over the years and the llessons I have learned on the road to recovery. Picture a caterpillar reading a book to other caterpillars while slowly changing into a butterfly. That is the essence of this book.

The original title of this book was "From the Bondage of Sorrow, the Captives Dream Dreams." This title is very significant to me. My recovery has been a journey out of  the bondage of sorrow  and into the light. The bondage refers addiction. The sorrow is depression. The light is self-awareness. And like all the other captives, I dreamed dreams. These dreams were my hope. They kept me alive. And many of them have come true. 

This book is also about finding, to my surprise, that my recovery from my addiction is not just about getting the craving out of my system, but being free to go off in search of my true, authentic self who has been lost for many years. We lose ourselves for different reasons. Alice Miller, in Drama of the Gifted Child, says we sacrifice  our real selves to please our mothers. Sometimes we lose ourselves to obligation. We go to work at a dead-end job to pay our bills. Women, before the feminist movement, were forced into domesticity to be accepted as "real women." Today, women chase after careers when they really want to be a housewife. How ironic is that? All of this was true for me. But for whatever reason our false self is born, addiction keeps us a slave to that lifestyle. We must be free of our bondage to people, places and things before we can venture out to find ourselves.

I mention this because one of the overriding themes of this book is looking for, and finding, our spiritual selves. But this is not the alpha and omega of it all. The journey is just as important as the goal. All the great sages say this. And it is on the journey to find a Higher Power that we find a very important lesser power--ourselves--lesser only by virtue of our relationship to God not to mankind. We are each on equal footing with each other while we stand in God's light. But it is this light that reveals who we really are. And we will be so amazed. We only suspect who we really are. I set out to write a journal for my children and ended up a published author. J. B. Phillips says "Your God is Too Small." I say, "Your dreams are too small."

This is not to say that all our dreams come true. Many of mine have not but, but I am living happily ever after. It is important to understand that the journey to find ourselves, on the road to finding God, is not about all of our childhood dreams coming true, it is about finding the dreams that were hidden from us by low self esteem, fear, anger, depression--all the things that led to our addiction in the first place. Only God knows about these hidden dreams. This is why Christians surrender to Christ, and 12-Steppers turn their life and will over to the care of God. Only he knows what is best for us and we must find him to find our true destiny.

The final sub-text of this book is what Joseph Campbell calls "invisible" hands," which come to your aid when you are ready to change. My invisible hands came in various forms--willingness, intuition, books, teachers, therapy, dreams, support groups, and God--each and every one a miracle. And the help continues to come in a timely fashion, even unto this day. This book is the story of these miracles--of the grace that has touched my life--and what I did with that grace. 


Dear Lady, I had to write and tell you how your story, Where Love Abides, has touched my heart and soul. I was mes-merized, and I could not stop reading. My only sorrow was when it ended. What a beautiful, heavenly mind you have! In reading your story, it is clear that God has left His mark upon your mind and soul. I would encourage you to share what God has lovingly given to you. Expound on this and turn it into a book. It is too beautiful to remain unpublished. God Bless You! (Deborah)

I am a 38 year old male and I just finished reading your book Where Love Abides. When I came upon it in the book store, by accident, I read one paragraph at random and almost passed out right then. It took every ounce of energy not to burst into tears right there. That book is me. I m sure you have had many letters from people about the book. I ve never written to someone like this before, but I just had to thank you for writing something that has touched me in a way I will be unable to adequately explain. I m going though a lot of pain, confusion, etc. on my latest relationship failure and this book has inspired me to persevere. (Steve)

This is by far the most life-changing book I've read. I felt as though I was walking along with Susan throughout the entire book; so much applied to my own life. It's not a book merely to grace your book shelf, but one to have by your bedside, or easy chair, to allow frequent reference and support. It's not an ordinary self-help book or parable, but one of extraordinary insight, embracing life and spirit. I'd recommend Where Love Abides to everyone--young and old--male or female, whether they are simply looking for more happiness, and fulfillment, or their despair is so great they feel a hole within their heart allowing their very life-force washing away. It is a must read. I would definitely recommend it to my friends. (Joyce)



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