on the Internet
internet has kept my work alive. I really believe that if it were
not for God and the internet my book would be gathering dust on
following links take you to articles that have been written about
me, written about my book, or cited my work.
have always been in love with self-help books because they talk
about complicated issues in a form that is easy to read and hold
I write I cannot always find a word to describe an important concept,
so I create terms. Some of them make it the internet without giving
me credit. That is okay as long as people get the point.
favorite self-created works (or terms) are seductive withholder,
stuational narcissist and ambivalent love addict. In my article
"Typical Kinds of Love Addicts," you will see a complete
list of terms I have created to describe the different kinds of
love addicts; i.e. sabatour, romance addict, obsessed love addict,
torchbearer, narcissist love addict,. They come from a lecture I
gave in Oakland, Calfornia, circa 2003.
some extent I can also take credit for being the first person to
use the word "love addict" in a book. Only SLAA used it
in print before my book came out in 1989. A friend who was dying
gave me the idea. I was reading a rough draft of my book to her
and I kept using the phrase "person who was addicted,"
or just the word "addict." Suddenly my beloved friend
said, "Susan, why dont' you just use the term 'love addict.'"
I thought she was brilliant and re-did the whole book to incorporate
this simple term. Like Anne Schaef, in her groundbreaking book Escape
from Intimacy, I was interested in getting beyond the term
codependent and co-alcoholic. We are not co- anything. We are full-fledged
addicts in our own right. This idea comes from Anne, but I created
me if I am tooting my own horn, but unlike other authors I have
made very little money over the years. Getting a little recognition
is all I have.
are the internet links. Contact me if any of them are broken. Please
note that some of these articles credit the organization Love Addicts
Anonymous (LAA). This is because they are not aware that I wrote
all the literature for LAA which I co-founded with Howard G in 2004.
of these articles are more helpful than others. I cannot endorse
any article in particular, but I appreciate being cited. No everyone
who uses my material does that.
warn you that there is a lot of redundancy. The article, "Typical
Kinds of Love Addicts," which I wrote for a workshop I was
giving in 2004, is used over and over again. Each author presents
their own ideas about love addiction and recovery intertwined with
the information I provide about the variety of different types of
to Unrequited Love
to Get Rid of Love Obsession
Plagarized from my Workbook.
Female Love Avoidant
Narcissists Needs a Love Addict
Again Off Again Relationship
and Love Addiction
About Unrequited Love
Addiction on CNN
Do People Go Back to Bad Relationships
of Love Addicts in Romanian
of Love Addicts in Italian
Withholders Em Power
Addiction [All Treatment]
San Francisco Examiner.com
Love Becomes a Fatal Attraction
Addicts Anonymous Literature
& Reflections by Sam Elliot
Article about Seductive Withholder
Love Becomes Fatal Attraction
Withholders in Temple Illuminatus
Addiction vs. Codependency
is Love Addiction?
is my usename
Along With Me
it Love or Is it Addiction?
Relationship and Love Addiction
Love Addict on Message Board
Addicts (in Italian)
of Love Addicts (Daily Strength)
Esteem in Recovery
& Love Addiction
Susan's 40 Questions
have no copy, but Susan's work made it to the Ann Landers column
in the Chicago Tribute.
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